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It Turns Out That What Most Moms Really Want (And Need ) Is A Close Mom Friend
And honestly? It’s really hard to find them
I never realized how hard making mom friends would be in adulthood. I had always made friends easily as a kid. It came naturally to me. Yet, as a mom, it has been so. much. harder.
In early motherhood I spent many hours, in a cramped two bedroom apartment, crying as milk poured from my sore boobs and I tried to figure out how to take care of my baby.
There were a few online message boards that I sometimes used, but Facebook (or any social media for that matter) didn’t exist yet.
For the most part, I sat alone, with no family close by, and learned how to be a mom all by myself. I called my sister, who lived in another state, a lot for advice or just to cry, but I longed for a mom friend that I could hang out with.
I was a stay at home mom, suffering from postpartum depression and anxiety and was bored out of my mind. Oh how I wish I had even on online network back then to reach out to other mom friends and find a bestie to come sit on my couch while our babies played. Or to swap child care with me on the rare occasion we would try to have a date night.
